Wednesday, December 12, 2012
My Funny Kiddos
Monday, November 26, 2012
Saturday, November 3, 2012
Sympathy
This week has been rough. I have a lot more responsibility at work this year including training a co-teacher, a larger caseload, teaching more kids with significant disabilities, and managing and training 3 para-educators. It is flattering that they think I'm capable of handling this responsibility and yet completely overwhelming. My major frustrations are not having enough time to do everything I should be doing for my job, needing more staff, and ultimately, having staff that is not implementing what I ask them to do.
I hate conflict and as you know, am very soft spoken. This does not bode well when trying to re-teach paras who are older, strong-tempered, black women and have been able to get by with doing their job half-heartedly before I came along. At first glance, you might think that everything is fine because they say all the right things to my face but they have continued to show a lack of respect for my opinions and experience by complaining to others behind my back and not following through on my instruction. These are women who absolutely love our kids and have strengths that make them good at certain tasks required of them but I'm on year 3 now of fighting the same battles and I'm exhausted. I've talked with administration and they have the same concerns. They are supportive of the next steps that need to be taken so it is not all terrible.
The point of that whole story is that it brought me to think of my students who have been fighting the same battles for years as well and how frustrated they must be. There is one specific student I have in mind. He is 5 years old with limited speech abilities, among other things (and yet has perfected his ability to say the F-bomb--go figure). When I think about all of his inappropriate behavior I can sympathize with the reasons behind it. He is a bright kid and yet hardly anyone can understand him. How maddening this must be! He knows exactly what he's trying to say but people can hardly ever figure it out.
In honor of my kiddos and God who has given me all that I need in eternal life with Him, I am going to make a point to daily focus on what I have to be thankful for and it starts now.
I am thankful for:
1. Salvation in Christ.
2. That my identity does not rest in my job or others opinions of me.
3. That I have a job where I get to do what I love and am supported by administration.
4. My church family.
5. Encouraging friends and family.
6. Financial stability.
7. A washer and dryer! Yippee!!
8. Warm, sunny weather.
9. Being able to be physically active and take on new challenges.
and so much more!
Philippians 4:4-7 (ESV)
"Rejoice in the Lord always; again I will say, Rejoice. Let your reasonableness be known to everyone. The Lord is at hand; do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus."
Sunday, August 26, 2012
Isaac
Monday, August 6, 2012
Wow
Now I'm off to run after kids on their first day back to school.
Wednesday, July 25, 2012
Life
Sunday, July 22, 2012
Winding Down
When I got back to NOLA I was finally able to track down my home development worker. She came out and did my first home visit--just glanced around to make sure I had enough room for kids. Now she should be sending out my reference letters as I try to schedule my finger printing and wait for my last two home visits. The process probably won't be finished until the end of August at the earliest but I'm so excited that things are finally moving along again.
Visiting my friends with young children this summer provided some perspective on parenting. Illness, fidgety eaters, kids needing naps, poop...need I say more? These are all things that I know are realities of dealing with kids. I deal with these things with my students all the time but it freaks me out a bit knowing that I'll be dealing with it at home by myself too. Right now my fear is balanced by excitement. I pray that the excitement of ministering to these kiddos continues once the realities of parenting hits.
"Save us, we pray, O Lord! O Lord, we pray, give us success!" (Psalm 118:25 ESV)
"Give thanks to the Lord, for he is good, for his steadfast love endures forever" (Psalm 136:1 ESV)
Wednesday, July 4, 2012
Sunday, June 24, 2012
Reality Check
12 Therefore, my beloved, as you have always obeyed, so now, not only as in my presence but much more in my absence, work out your own salvation with fear and trembling, 13 for it is God who works in you, both to will and to work for his good pleasure.
14 Do ALL things without grumbling or disputing, 15 that you may be blameless and innocent, children of God without blemish in the midst of a crooked and twisted generation, among whom you shine as lights in the world, 16 holding fast to the word of life, so that in the day of Christ I may be proud that I did not run in vain or labor in vain. 17 Even if I am to be poured out as a drink offering upon the sacrificial offering of your faith, I am glad and rejoice with you all. 18 Likewise you also should be glad and rejoice with me. (Phil. 2:12-18 ESV with emphasis added)
As I'm home visiting, many people ask how the job is going and it is easy to respond with the negatives. This year has been hard with having no classroom and inadequate staff supports--not to mention the home situations that my kids have been dealing with. It is easy to get caught up when in the midst of it all. This is when the grumbling begins. I find myself saying that if the school doesn't give me teaching space and more sped teaching staff, I will not stay to teach there. Deep in my heart I know this isn't true. I'm deeply invested in the lives of my students and others in the community.
Paul is a wonderful leader as he sets the example for those who are finding it difficult to persevere in our current situations. Even as he was in prison and facing death, he was willing to be a martyr so that he could be a light to the world. He was committed to the point of death so that others would be encouraged and God's kindom would be glorified. Of course, our ultimate example to follow is Christ's as he humbled himself as a servant and obeyed God to the point of death on a cross.
Right now I believe I am obeying God's will for me by being where I am and doing what I do. However, the job is hard. My joy in these hard times comes through remembering God's sovereignty and His grace shown to me. This joy is what sets me apart. With God's grace in mind I am given perspective on life's trials and reminded that I am striving for God's glory to be seen by all. I pray that despite my sin, God's glory shines through me and that I remember the grace that has been shown to me. I pray that this grace humbles me into putting others first and doing it with a cheerful heart.
Wednesday, June 20, 2012
Summer's here!
Having guests stay over was good practice for starting foster care. I had to be quiet when my mormor went to bed at 7pm and had to practice feeding someone other than just myself. "Oh, so you don't want hummus and green beans for dinner?" I did however manage to get Annika to eat creamy gnocchi with edamame and squash. Success!
Saturday, June 2, 2012
New Beginnings
The kids all flew to Pennsylvania to be with their aunt this past Friday and we will hear the final custody ruling from the judge on June 6. Please pray that God will give the judge wisdom and that she will rule to terminate parental rights. Also pray for the kids as they transition to a new home. They have been through so much in their short lifetime and I hope that this is the beginning of a typical childhood for them where they feel safe, carefree, loved, and nurtured. I miss them terribly.
Monday, May 28, 2012
Midnight Musings
Sunday, May 20, 2012
Don't tell my mom
Today I had an even closer and scarier reminder. I was napping on my couch when I woke up to a number of sirens going off outside. I normally hear sirens pass by because I live close to a main road but this was more than usual. I peeked out of my front door and didn't see anything directly outside so I carried on with what I was doing thinking that it was just the music festival that was going on this weekend. A few hours later I was watching the news and they were covering a story of a man who was shot and killed just a block from my house. I don't know yet if he's a direct neighbor or was visiting friends. He was just 21 years old and holding a baby when someone shot him in the face. I can't even begin to imagine what kind of evil person would shoot someone much less a person holding an innocent infant. It makes me sick.
"And do not fear those who kill the body but cannot kill the soul. Rather fear him who can destroy both soul and body in hell." Mathew 10:28 ESV
"The fear of a man lays a snare, but whoever trusts in the Lord is safe." Proverbs 29:25 ESV
"You are my hiding place and my shield; I hope in your word." Psalm 119:114 ESV
"In peace I will both lie down and sleep; for you alone, O Lord, make me dwell in safety." Psalm 4:8 ESV
Monday, May 7, 2012
Another world
Sometimes I feel like I live in a different world...
We've had a series of incidents with middle school kids in the city. One 13 year old was shot while getting off the school bus. And a 15 year old couple was shot and killed just days apart. it is heart breaking thinking about what their friends and families are going through. It is also saddening knowing that this pain and sorrow is a reality for many of my students.
The recent events affecting school age kids have also forced us to have an increased awareness and heightened sense of security. We have practiced lockdown procedures multiple times in the past week. It is while I'm hiding in the closet or behind playground equipment with my students that I yearn for jesus to return. I am thankful and praise God that it has been just practice for us so far and I pray that God continues to protect us.
"The fear of man lays a snare, but whoever trusts in the Lord is safe."
Proverbs 29:25 (ESV)
Monday, April 23, 2012
Glorious Rest
Lately things have been going at full speed with no breaks in between. This is life and I don't know if it will ever change but I have begun to see the need to escape periodically so that I can recharge and continue to minister to those around me.
I was encouraged while listening to our church sermon a couple of weeks ago. One of my pastors preached on Mark 6:30-44 when Jesus feeds the 5,000. The key points that I walked away with were this:
1. Jesus acknowledged the disciples need for rest. I do not need to feel guilty about needing to escape every once in a while.
2. My image of rest and retreat may be different from God's. God commanded the disciples to feed the hungry while they were looking to rest. The disciples saw the masses as a burden and wanted to send them away but Jesus sees them and immediately shows them compassion and mercy.
3. When we feast on Jesus, we have new life and are refreshed. I need to escape and run to Christ constantly for rest.
4. Jesus works mighty miracles and will go to great lengths to feed his people! This feast should be a reminder of the heavenly feast we will have one day.
Monday, April 16, 2012
One step closer
I found the listing on craigslist Friday night. It made me so excited that I emailed and called the guy to let him know how interested I was and that I would be the first one at the open house the next day. I pretty much walked in, glanced around, and told him I wanted it. He had me to fill out an application and got back to me last night to let me know that it is mine. I sign the lease and get the keys tomorrow.
Wednesday, April 11, 2012
Today I wanted to share an answer to prayers. Yesterday morning before work I woke up early and spent time reading and praying that God would give me strength in knowing that He has not left me in this battle alone. This year has been pretty miserable at work. I'm overloaded and constantly exhausted--both physically and emotionally. Part of this is due to getting a student on my caseload who has serious emotional disorders. My heart breaks for this little girl because she is only 6 and is constantly at battle with her emotions. You can tell that it is exhausting for her too because she will sleep for a couple of hours after each episode. Her meltdowns have been getting more intense throughout the year and we have been struggling to find any local mental health services for her. She was receiving counseling from one agency but they dropped her saying that they couldn't meet her needs. Really?! So you just drop her?? I don't get the complete mental health void that exists in a city full of individuals with PTSD from Katrina. That's a whole other post though.
The plan we have in place for my student is a series of different things but when she reaches a certain intensity in her meltdown we call a mobile crisis team (the cops) after 10 minutes at that intensity. She came in full force yesterday morning and we had to call in the team shortly after she arrived. They actually had to cuff her to take her out safely and all I can think of at this point is that I'm so glad she didn't get to the gun holstered to the cop's hip. The hospital that she was taken to finally had an open bed to admit her for observation and by God's grace, mom agreed. My student has been taken out like this before but the hospital has never had room and mom has never been in agreement before so this in itself is a sheer miracle.
She was put into isolation last night because her behaviors were so intense and she was threatening to kill herself and us teachers. Pray that the doctors will have wisdom in treating her and show her grace. Also pray that God will give her and her mom peace. I imagine it is scary not having any familiar faces around. This is an incredible first step to put mom into action to get services for her daughter and to get my student on some medication that would allow her to function through life. I am encouraged!
Thursday, January 26, 2012
Sunday, January 15, 2012
Glimmers of Grace
1. A nearby school went on lockdown for several hours because of 4 shooters being on the loose. The police eventually caught all 4 and thankfully no students were injured or killed.
2. We had a middle school student who was shot and killed in her own home. It is heartbreaking to have such a young person be a victim of violence. Our middle school staff has been great about looking out for the other students and making sure they have extra emotional supports available.
3. I had planned to stop by Walgreens on my way home from work but couldn't because there had been a shooting and it was roped off by police tape. There have been so many shootings this week that have hit close to home and it is disheartening. However, it does make me glad that I am involved in training and educating young people so that they do not turn to violence and crime as many others in their neighborhoods have done.
What made this week at all redeemable is that one of my students went into emergency foster care with her siblings. This was completely by God's grace. The state wasn't planning on taking the kids but because of bad communication within family services, no one could reach their father by the time the kids were supposed to go home Wednesday. We have been fighting for a long time to have the children taken away from their dad and I'm praying that steps will now be made to take permanent custody away from him.
The family that took my student and her sister are members of a church that works closely with our school. The husband heads up the church's foster and adoption ministry and is going to be a great source of information while I try to figure out what to do about starting foster care.
Wednesday I also found out that I am getting my anticipated raise which will allow me to start saving up for my own place so I can eventually take foster kids. I think my next steps are to start taking foster parent classes and to look for someone to take my place in my current apartment anytime between April and June.
Sunday, January 8, 2012
Happy Epiphany
Celebrating Epiphany is a new experience for me as I've moved to New Orleans. I've come to understand that Epiphany is a season of celebrating the manifestation of Christ among us by recognizing the gradual revelation of his mission on Earth through the visit of the magi, Christ's visit to the temple as a 12 year old boy, His baptism in the Jordan, and the miracle of turning water to wine at the marriage feast--ending in typical New Orleans fashion of course.
Going along with the season of Epiphany, our church sermon today was about God being with us in our daily battles. It focused on 2 Kings 6:8-23, where God delivered Israel's enemies into their hands and commanded the Israelites to feed and serve them. The fact that God miraculously saved them from their enemies reminded me that I am not alone in this battle of ministering to my community. Not only that, but God is constantly at work. I have a tendency to picture God sitting and waiting in heaven until the day that he decides to call us home, but he has not left us alone. He has given us the Holy Spirit to be with us.